Managing Resistence During Disruption: When You Don’t Want to Do the Thing

Disruption is rarely just logistical. It’s emotional, psychological, and deeply human.

Whether you're navigating a layoff, career change, relocation, health shift, or identity transition—there often comes a moment when you hit a wall.

You know you need to take the next step.
You want to move forward.
And still—you’re stuck. Dragging your feet. Avoiding.
Resistance.

Here’s what I want to suggest:

Resistance doesn’t mean you’re failing.
It means you’re human.

Most of us interpret resistance as laziness, fear, or self-sabotage. But in my work as a coach, I’ve seen something deeper:

Resistance is a protective mechanism.
It’s the nervous system saying, “Wait—I’m not sure we’re safe yet.”

So what can you do when resistance shows up?

Here are a few practices I invite clients into:

🔹 Get curious.
Instead of “What’s wrong with me?” try:
What’s at stake here? What part of me is scared or overwhelmed?

🔹 Shrink the task.
Disruption drains energy. What feels like procrastination might be exhaustion. Start with the smallest next step. One email. One call. One honest reflection.

🔹 Name the loss.
Even positive change involves letting go. Resistance often signals grief—about who you were, or what you hoped would last.

🔹 Take action before confidence.
Clarity doesn’t always come before movement. Sometimes, one step forward creates the readiness we’re waiting for.

🔹 Lead with compassion.
You’re not a machine. If you’re resisting, there’s likely something tender underneath. Meet it with grace—not judgment.

Resistance is not a sign to stop. It’s a signal to slow down and listen.
And it’s part of the process. Every time.

If you’re in a season of disruption and feeling stuck—I see you.
This is the terrain I help clients navigate: honestly, gently, and powerfully.

✨ You don’t have to move fast. You just have to move true.

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